Within today’s Churches, sex or sexual behavior should be discussed either within a counseling unity with maybe one or two other persons to keep it in a more private arena or at pulpits where the word of God can help those having issues in sexual areas. Sexual precepts disseminated at pulpits help ensure that the truth revealed is from God’s word and not the world. I know ministers putting forth a dissertation on sex or sexual behavior is not in the pipeline of one’s hermeneutic sermon of the day. However, within the confines of scripture, God has taken liberty by the Holy Spirit to reveal it and discuss its occurrence within marriage from His perspective.
Sex is a God thing, as shown in the scripture. The term “sexual behavior” refers to everything done by living human beings who are sexually defined by their behavioral activities. So, we could say this is about how we perform sexual roles as males and females. Still, in a more scriptural definition, sexual behavior is related to the purpose of replenishment or procreation, as is seen in Gen. 1:.
Sexual intercourse, or the term having sex, is not abundantly illustrated in the word of God, but there are descriptive occurrences revealed. And no, sex is not the central theme of the bible, but God sees it as part of His eternal plan for males and females; the Church only sees it to procreate humanity. Gen 4:1 AND ADAM knew Eve his wife, and she conceived, and bore Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord.
Sexual behavior or active physical intercourse is illustrated by the term known or to know regarding what we call sex between a male and a female. Gen 24:16 And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up. In Hebrew, it is a unique word, ” (yada), which typically means to know or have knowledge that reflects on observing another person’s activity. Luke 1:34 Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?
There is an underlying intent here that requires a living experience from one’s intimate and sensually aroused union of intercourse.
So, let us view this in terms of knowing that the term sex is not just intellectual or through a lusting of burning flesh but learning by gratification whereby the soul is satisfied in a compatible union. You should know that the flesh and its sensual areas are for the arousal of passions that are set ablaze within it to create yearning or lusting, as some call it. This promotes sexual intercourse between males and females.
So, when it comes to sex, believers must learn to look to the Word for any knowledge of boundaries or barriers regarding sexual activity. God sees sexual intercourse as a God thing if it is within the confines of a marriage covenant between a male and a female. His perfect design of our fleshly bodies equips us with sexual organs and ultra-sensual areas that, if stimulated, arouse passions that need to be quenched.
God creates with a defined purpose through His creative laws, so let us face the fact that He designed your body for sexual activity; it is a part of your flesh purposed to extinguish aroused passions that occur. Now, I must be careful not to make it appear as if I am promoting sexual intercourse. However, nothing is wrong with it if it is in the confines of marriage. But since it is part of our created purpose, we cannot go around ignorantly trying to satisfy a fire that keeps getting set ablaze.
When it comes to one’s sex drive, not all are the same, as some are more driven than others. Sexual intercourse within marriage occurring with a partner of the opposite gender is illustrated in the word where another person’s body should be that of a covenant spouse, who in the following case is a female.
Prov 5:17-19 (MSG) Do you know the saying, “Drink from your own rain barrel, draw water from your own spring-fed well”? 16 It’s true. Otherwise, you may one day come home and find your barrel empty and your well polluted. 17 Your spring water is for you and you only, not to be passed around among strangers. 18 Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! 19 Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
I know this conflicts with today’s homosexual senselessness, but this is God’s truth about sex. Paul, in his letters to the Corinthians, referred to what he called sexual immorality, seen as an act of adultery, pornography, lewdness, sodomy, incest, bestiality, and yes, homosexuality. 1 Cor 7:1-2 (NKJV) Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each Woman have her own husband.
Sexual immorality can be defined as anything outside God’s boundaries, making certain permissive mannerisms illicit behavior and unacceptable. God proposed that there be counsel to learn from the Holy Spirit how to honor the opposite sexes’ sensual intimacy. I know you are gasping right now since no one brings the Holy Spirit into discussing sex, but this is in error as having no spiritual sense in all of this makes it easy for the enemy to influence immoral sexual behaviors.
God does not restrain us from sex in marriage, so any religious or pious conviction or denomination rules or statutes are not from Him. Lev 18:23 Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion. Lev 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
However, He does inform us in scripture that not all the things males or females are minded to do through immoral sexual activity are acceptable. God has set certain boundaries regarding sex among His creation.
Gen 6:5-6 And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination and the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually. 6 And it repented the LORD that He had made man on the earth, and it grieved him at his heart. As we see in this verse, humans can imagine no boundaries in their carnal nature because they will do anything they think or conceive in their hearts.
Since God created us to have sex, He is the one interested in how His creation of males and females behave sexually. Within the New Testament, Paul’s detailing of certain sensual aspects of sex is behavior he describes as occurring between one male and one female. I Cor 7:1-2 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Here, “touching” refers to it in such a way as to stoke or cause this fire to rise in the flesh, which is not a good thing unless they are married. The word for touch in Greek is (haptomai), meaning to touch in a way to attach oneself, and the root word for this is (hapto), which means to fasten by setting it on fire. We can take this as meaning do not touch in a way sensual areas set the soul on fire, burning in the flesh that is extinguished through sexual intercourse.
Not all sexual behavior is related to intimate sex, but God, who created us, reveals how to satisfy such sensually driven desires. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let each man have his own wife, and let every Woman have her own husband. He says that to prevent sexual immorality, each man or woman should have by marriage a husband or wife. Thus, marriage is God’s acceptable union for extinguishing “sensually” aroused flesh amid sexual permissiveness and the soul’s behavior before God.
I know there will be those who read this and immediately want to know about foreplay, oral or anal sex, or sexually kinky acts as acceptable or not. So, let us talk about that: in the aspects of sexual foreplay, there are many acts or ways to perform it. As an asset to obtaining gratifying sexual intercourse between a husband and wife in marriage, there needs to be respect and honor that prevent exceeding any conscious spiritual boundaries.
If we look at this through a religious lens and see it as only relevant to one’s satisfaction with the sinful lust of the flesh, we must be aware that God did not create us just as flesh; He designed us to be like Him in that we have a soul, a place of consciousness, and He has brought all of this into a place relevant to our well-being as a living spirit.
You must be conscious of the fact that He made us to be sexually active creations, who, by scripture, can see that we can also be holy and righteous as well. So, sex within the confines He outlines for males and females is not evil, nor does it hinder or negate such a status. You would be surprised at how many newborn Christians suddenly see themselves as too holy for sex. This creates a disturbance in the marriage that is not easily removed, but the truth by the Holy Spirit is there to bring stability to spiritual discerning.
As already mentioned, not everyone’s sex drive is the same. Statistics show that females are typically less driven by sexual desires. Some women require a more extended period of stimulation in sensitive areas to bring the flesh to a point where sex is not painful or dissatisfying and or gratification occurs through sexual intercourse.
Song of Songs 7:6-8 (MSG) Your beauty, within and without, is absolute, dear lover, close companion. God is not anti-sex conscious but reveals that He influences the Spirit of God to write in His word the truth concerning sensually aroused expressions. 7 You are tall and supple, like the palm tree, and your full breasts are like sweet clusters of dates. 8 I say, “I’m going to climb that palm tree! I’m going to caress its fruit!” Oh yes! Your breasts will be clusters of sweet fruit to me, Your breath clean and cool like fresh mint,
These verses reveal an inferred sensuality with thoughts and actions within God’s word. We cannot dismiss the fact that sexual stimulation, both physical and emotional, culminates in a biological eruption or climax if I dare say. Sex, if done by righteous and holy individuals, is spiritually healthy and honorable to God’s eternal plan, as it can gratify the soul, satisfy the flesh, and replenish the earth with His spiritual offspring. Therefore, intercourse for married believers means spiritual well-being and sexual health is considered in heaven.
With all things relevant to one’s faith, the right manner of respect and honor will reveal maturity and integrity in intimate encounters. Unfortunately, the world’s sexual manners heavily promote sexual acts seen as outside a realm that honors God’s righteous character through Christ for each. I recently read articles that reveal that Christian couples today view pornographic videos to stimulate sexual intimacy within the marriage.
While this may excite the soul and stir up the flesh, it usually does nothing to rectify any sexual problems plaguing a marriage’s foundation. Instead, it often establishes a corridor the enemy, the devil, enters to promote perverse spiritual activity unacceptable to God. Perverted sexual presence through pornographic media is out of bounds for believers. Gratification within the marriage bed can be interrupted by several things, such as physical issues, mental and emotional problems in the soul, age, and more importantly spiritual status.
Another way to explain the emotional arena that surrounds the aspect of sex issues like jealousy, order of distrust, domestic violence, or even personality conflicts that disrupt the soul and affect one’s attitude and well-being. Daily issues of life can also affect one’s sexual desires, so knowing how all of this affects the sexual area of marriage benefits the overall union.
God is not going to be offended by you having sexual intercourse. Instead, by the Holy Spirit, He will instruct from the word how to rightly admonish each other to bring the greatest fulfillment as each spouse has certain rights, not to be forced, abused, or wrongfully demanded by the other. 1 Cor 7:3-4 Let the husband render unto the wife her due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The word benevolence refers to the right manner of thinking that each is to have toward the other. Another way to say it is that each has authority over what happens to their own fleshly body. Thus, both must have a consciousness to respect that fact. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. The Greek word for power is (exousiazo), which means “to exercise power,” but the root word is (exousia), which means to give leave or permission to exercise it.
While both are spirit and soul, they must give each other the right to access the body they and the Holy Spirit occupy by God’s creative authority. Like it or not, if you are His offspring, He has taken up occupancy of your body by the Holy Spirit, who is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. Most Christians want to leave God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit out of any sexual activity, but this is not what He wants, so it is time Christians get rid of religious ideas like God hates sex.
No one is perfect; therefore, expecting perfect sexual behavior is unrealistic, but the sexual issues plaguing marriages are the results of worldly influence and not scriptural truth, which is reason enough to keep the Spirit of God involved. Most pulpits steer clear of the subject of sex because they, too, are struggling to understand any righteous aspects of it. The most relevant reason for abstaining from teaching sexual behavior is that it is still viewed by many as associated with sinful acts, conflicting with righteousness and holiness.
When we discuss sex, there is always a tendency to see it religiously as the devil’s means of arousing the sinful carnal nature of man. But it is not about what we know concerning sex; it is about what we know about God’s purpose for the sexes and how we can fulfill it with the help of the Holy Spirit.
God did not create us to struggle through the issues of life, and Jesus came to deliver us from being robbed of a glorious life we are to enjoy abundantly, both now and in the future. He is never against sex; He is the One who made it all possible in the first place, but He is against our elevating it above Him.
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